What is an Authentic Voice?
An authentic voice is an individual’s true identity and is developed by vision and mastery. A lifelong process, developing an authentic voice that is strong and compelling takes learning, experimentation, and failure. It is a continuous course of self-discovery.
If an individual has suffered trauma, especially at a young age, their authentic voice can be silenced, confused, or even lost. They are disconnected from who they really are. In this case, individuals will mentally put themselves down. Without even realizing it, they will constantly criticize or beat themselves up.
How to Find Your Authentic Voice
Develop Trust
“I can do it myself. I don't need anyone to help me.”
The disconnect caused by trauma can show up as independence in a person. It is important to recognize that statements, like the one above, can create isolation from friends and family. One of the first steps to developing an authentic voice is to learn to trust others – to rebuild those connections with people. And, with yourself.
When an individual first begins to reconnect with others, it may feel very foreign and unsure. THAT’S OKAY! It’s normal. I, myself, have recently felt that too.
For me, it was in this brave new world of starting a business. The areas of social media were overwhelming and created feelings of self-doubt. When I began to ask for support with simple tasks for my business, for example, having my website monitored and updated as needed, I had to let go of control. I had to trust that she would complete what was necessary for the website. Did I still feel vulnerable? Yes! Am I trying to do my best to embody and lean into my authentic voice? Yes! In order to achieve personal and professional growth, I am learning to embrace change.
Self-Expression
A silenced voice may find difficulties expressing itself. Creative expression allows an individual to communicate thoughts and feelings that may otherwise be difficult to reveal verbally. Many people struggling with depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues can benefit from finding an outlet.
8 Forms of Creative Expression
• Dancing • Drawing
• Photography • Pilates
• Playing a musical instrument • Running
• Writing/Journaling • Yoga
Self-Care
Do you spend a lot of time caring for others but not yourself? This is a lack of self-compassion, which can cause you to feel resentment, depleted energy, loss of strength, or physical discomfort. Self-care is CRITICAL when you're nurturing others. When you are meet your needs with kindness and understanding, you’re not just helping yourself, but others too.
When the nervous system is on high alert or when a person is not authentic with their voice, there can be direct impacts on the body: the voice box, as well as the jaw and facial muscles, becomes tense. Breathing and the heart rate quicken. The eyes become dilated. The ears become overly sensitive to loud noises and voices.
Do you know what I’m talking about? Have you been there? For me, I usually, experience jaw tension and pain. I’ve often gone to the dentist to ease my jaw discomfort.
To reduce my tension and pain (not to mention visits to the dentist!), I practice self-care. Some days a hot bath and fragrant candles are the most helpful. Other days, it’s Pilates, yoga, or even just a walk! Whether it’s baking cookies or listening to music, take time out of your day to promote healing through nurturing yourself.
Being Truthful and Honest About Finding Our Voice Can Be Difficult
Stepping into your authentic voice takes courage to create connections and compassion. As you mature, the authenticity of your voice will also evolve with you. Be patient with yourself in your journey. Don’t allow yourself to be overwhelmed by emotions and trauma. Instead, learn from them and embrace yourself for who you are. The power to heal is inside of YOU!